Happiness. It’s the term thrown around more often
than any other term when people are asked what they are looking for
in life. A loving partner, a fun high-paying job and endless world
travel are also amongst some of the most common answers, however all
of these are preference-based means to the one ultimate end, which is
happiness. Being so sought-after, I thought I’d comprise a list of
common traits that seem to be found in happy people -and I’m
talking about the genuinely happy people, and not just those who
appear to be so on the surface.
By compiling this list I’m not suggesting that
these are the only keys to happiness, I’m simply shedding
light on some common characteristics I’ve come to find.
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1. Love Themselves For Who They Are
On the surface this may sound incredibly
egotistical, but by it I simply mean that they are truly comfortable
in their own shoes. They accept and embrace themselves physically,
they maintain their true character traits regardless of whether or
not they receive approval and they work to make the best of the human
experience they are living -rather than wallow in what others would
define as weaknesses or shortcomings.
2. See Relationships As An Extension To, Rather Than The Basis Of The Human Experience
Relationships, whether friendly, familial or
romantic, are certainly one of the greatest parts of the human
experience. However, far too many of us let their presence or
absence, and even more so the value we attribute to them dictate our
overall happiness in life. I’ve found that genuinely happy people
tend to find complete contentment within themselves, and see all
relationships as the awesome extension to their self-content. It’s
often when we are not looking for others to fill a particular void,
or to make us feel a certain way, that most of the truest and
most-valuable relationships are formed.
3. Embrace Change
Life is a constant lesson and happy people tend to
be well-aware of that. Not only are they always open to change, but
they truly listen to suggestions, respect and consider all opinions
and take criticism constructively rather than offensively.
4. Celebrate Rather Than Compare Themselves To The Accomplishments Of Others
Jealousy is a killer, and as Gary Allan once said,
“You can be the moon and still be jealous of the stars.” We are
all capable of accomplishing anything in this life and are the only
ones that are going to find the drive within ourselves to do it.
Rather than observe and compare to those who have accomplished, the
truly happy tend to celebrate it and use it as motivation to
accomplish things within their own lives.
5. Never Dwell In Being A Victim
We’ve all been the so-called ‘victim’ to
several things in life. Whether it be an unexpected break-up, getting
fired from a job, or even something as serious as the recipient of
domestic abuse. Truly happy people tend to be those who choose not to
dwell in it. They choose to let the victimization strengthen them,
rather than wear it as a badge of weakness or as the thing that makes
them consistently worthy of receiving sympathy.
6. They Live In The Present
As fun as reminiscing about the past or fantasizing
about the future can be, nothing will ever be done in anything but
the present and happy people tend to realize that. Not only do they
realize it, but they tend to use it as motivation to make the most of
it. In addition to being motivating, presence can also come in handy
for truly appreciating those moments of relaxation, allowing yourself
to be truly in them, rather than projecting future concerns into
them.
7. Trust That Everything Happens For A Reason
This can very easily be paired with the choice to
not be a victim, but happy people tend to trust the process and
existence of everything in their life. They know that nothing is ever
too big to handle and choose to embrace what life is currently
throwing at them rather than cowering at the sight of it.
8. They Don’t Let Money Dictate Their Lives
Nobody is denying that in this world right now we
all need money to exist, and as a result many of us spend the bulk of
our lives doing things that help us earn it. What I’ve found to
differentiate happy people is that they don’t let money be the
ultimate dictator in their life. They still make sensible choices
within their means, but they never let money: A) prevent them from
pursuing a so-called “risky” passion, B) be the factor that is
blamed for why their life is so miserable, C) complain about how
little they have. There are creative ways to do everything in this
world, and seeing money as only being possible to make in the
standard ways is the most crippling thing to that creativity.
9. Look Within For Solutions
One of the most powerful realizations a genuinely
happy person will often operate based on is “change starts within.”
The empowerment that comes as a result of not only realizing this but
even more so in using it as the backbone to everything in life can be
quite remarkable. There are thousands of books, mantras, techniques
and practices out there that can all help us to find solutions to so
many things in life, but they all require one thing to truly be
serviceable: the consciousness to support them
